Being a friend to a walk away spouse or a MLCer doesn't mean you pursue them. You give them time and space. Being a friend means listening and not offering up advice until they seek it from you. The term friends to a MLCer is very different from what we think it should be. They want someone to listen and validate them and they do not want to be reminded of what they are doing to us. They are emotionally driven and you can't rationalize w/them.
As Cadet stated, be like a friend you would meet on the street. Be friendly, don't pry and be upbeat As he stated mirror their actions or as I always say follow their lead.
Just remember, pushy friends soon get left by the side of the road and you don't want your spouse to think of you as a pushy/controlling friend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
