Still hanging on ... just

[Oluwa]

Hi Oluwa,
I would not move out. Don't move out! I know it seems exasperating to have no R talk, but I'd stick with that too. It could take a really long time for that, and I think that is okay. Limbo svcks, but yours doesn't seem too terrible. I'd keep up hard with your self improvements and leave her be, in the sense of no R talks. I've been told this, so I'll tell you: she'll do it when she's ready. If you try to force it, it just won't work.

Thanks. Yes our time together isn't actually that terrible compared to many people I have read here. We do interact and so some things together. She does seem ok with my company in general. She isn't going out on her own much at all at the moment. Its just it has been going on so long, and the amount of times she may move close to me, say to rest her head on my shoulder to watch TV or something do seem to be getting less.

So it is so very hard to think that my efforts are making a difference. This is why I keep deliberating different actions.