Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[PsySara]

Sorry I've been so absent lately, DBing my tail off over here.

On Wednesday I bought my WH his favorite food on the way home. He was really grateful and ate the heck out of it. I "acted as if" and was bright and happy, I walked up to him and hugged him very tight. This had the desired effect, he sort of melted into me. Of course there are still bumps, we ended up fighting on Thursday after he asked about how I felt and I was honest. He still feels that my inability to "do fun things" when I was pregnant and had hyperemesis "forced" him to find another relationship. He says it's his fault he cheated but my fault he felt the need to find someone to fill in the hole. I am not sure how I would have been able to fill that hole since he was living in another state when he was so lonely. This is a tough sticking point, one I wish he would be open to MC. For now I am shelving it and will just shut the convo down until I think we can handle it.

Since then we are back to enjoying each other's company. Yesterday I took a long lunch and we went to the mosque together for Jummah. Afterward we went out to eat and I went back to work and finished up my work. Last night I wore a VERY risque outfit and his jaw dropped. We ML and showered afterward and then just collapsed to bed in exhaustion, but it ws a good exhaustion. I am thinking of us doing a weekend Rertouville or something.

Surfer,
I had tears in my eyes when I read about how long you have received affection from your wife. It had only been 7 months for me and that felt just horrible. I wish I could shake some sense into these WAS/WS but we both know they have to go through their journey alone.

Dory,
For now the pendulum has swung in my direction so I am using this time to make the marriage a good place for us. My biggest challenge is keeping my stupid, stupid, stupid temper in check. Any videos or books you can recommend?

Sotto,
If he files for D then I will put significant boundaries in place. He must move out, start paying support for the kids, limited access to them (within reason of course, my desire isn't to keep his children from him) and extremely limited access to me. In the meantime he has dropped D talk again and is asking if we should start looking for houses. This time I am not jumping on that train and I've let him know I need time.