Don't change the game. Back in the saddle and work on you and your S. do things to make you happy and stay away from any roller coaster.
As for the guy? Real men don't peruse ex friends wives or anyone's wife. Slime balls do though. Sounds like a real catch that one.......give him a swerve. you have had enough dramas for a while. Time to let life settle down.
Surfer.
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