Looking backward but only to move forward SEVEN

[sage]

Oh, wow, 4+ years since being on these boards. Just took a quick down memory lane (aka, reading over this thread and checking to see who of the oldtimers is still around) -- hard to believe a) it's been as long as it has been and b) I'm still treading much of the same territory.

I don't miss the situation that originally brought me here lo many years ago but man, I was really focused on improving my marriage, huh?

How are things now? Charlotte is 10 and friends, at least in my case, the years passing from infancy to now have made all the difference in easing many of the issues in my marriage. All? No way. But the acute tiredness and disconnectedness are both alleviated.

So, why am I here tonight? Great question. I've felt the need, of late, to work on my M. Our M feels ok -- really -- but is missing intimacy. We have a lot going for us, there's no question...but I know there could be more closeness.

I chuckle a little at reading over this thread -- I guess it's true what H says that "people don't change" -- I'm back fighting the 10-15 lbs that make me feel crappy and the cluttering habit that annoys us both and the talking too much (and controlling and whatever...). I'm OK with having to work on all of the above because I don't like them in myself much either (well...I think the talking too much is ok but I'm starting to worry it's impacting DD too). (It's not really about talking too much as wanting to control everything..)

Anyway....I'll check out new threads soon...maybe I can be helpful to others. It's been 14 YEARS since Dday (almost to the day) -- how the heck did that happen? but I remember the lost feeling like it was yesterday.

Sage