Still hanging on ... just

[Oluwa]

Thanks Cadet,

Yes I understand the need to happy within myself. As I mentioned above, I am doing alot of things to make me happy. Especially doing things out of my comfort zone. The Yoga classes and now trying out Aikido (Martial Arts) are all things I am doing to make myself happy.

I have been on this path for a long time, probably being alot different and doing new things for 6 months or so. As I discussed previously, when we dont talk about the relationship and just have a good time, things seem to be on the mend. Its only when I try to ask about the R that I seem to reset her back to 0.

I am in turmoil now, as my IC is advising moving out, whereas the DB/DR approach did seem to be working unless we try and discuss the relationship. Do I keep trying the DB/DR approach, sometimes I want to just give up and ask for separation as she as requested.

I am worried that we may continue for months/years in limbo until she eventually finds out of the marriage via a EA/PA.