Feeling Lost 3

[Rose888]

Hi Peacetoday, I really just don't know what to do, sometimes my sitch seems hopeless.

I want to know how "getting better" affects US, ie why wait for that? In what way does it determine the outcome of M?

I should also say W still says she has no self confidence. I asked if she had sought help about all this w doctor. She said no and I know she is not in therapy either.

However she has no problem going on road trips with her family and posting pictures all over facebook about how wonderful it is. It's like she has a split personality, or a public and private face.

I know I need to GAL, just wanting to make sure I'm not doing any more damage with my actions. I know I need to support her as best I can, but I don't want her to eat cake by wanting to spend my parental time with kids but never offering hers.

I can think of at least four ways her health issue could be tied to the R:
- She needs to make diet or lifestyle changes, and she thinks you won't make them with her and it will be harder for her to make them while with you.
- The R takes up time that she feels she needs to spend on health issues.
- The R is hard. The health stuff is hard. She doesn't have mental or emotional energy to work on both at the same time.
- The health stuff is only as excuse to stall you because she isn't ready to work on ithe R now, but she doesn't want to say she'll never work on the R

Don't waste time trying to figure out which it is.