Hi folks, been a while since I've been on here and calmed down a lot since then
I've been reading a lot on here about other peoples sitches and now really we really all are very unique in our cirumstances. Regarding my sitch nothing much has changed. Very little forthcoming from W, no more "dates" though we did spend a family day together.
One thing I'd like a little guidance on from reading other threads is how do I approach these family like things? W does not really invite me or include me in any, yet seems peeved I do not invite her. I am positive she is being very selfish with this and do not wish her to get the wrong idea of what it would be like if we D. I should add I still love her and want to work this out, just want to make it work.
On our recent "family" day the discussion did get to R. W was visibly uncomfortable with this, and was saying she wanted to "get herself better" before R. I asked what she meant by this and she mentioned various health issues. When I said what happens if you don't get better she just said "then I die". I'm not sure I get what "getting better" has to do with our M? Other than that the day went well, although W declined an invite for tea with us, guess she is still not ready to start working on anything. Just rambling on now. Appreciate any and all comments, thanks
It sounds like a fair bit of pursuing (the R talk, the invitation to tea). Have you considered doing a 180 on pursuit?
I would probably stop inviting her to family things for a while. There are worse things than having her be peeved. It sounds like she isn't motivated to work on things, so give her space to figure out what she wants.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
