Focus on Me and the Boys 9

[J5K]

Think of it this way....

Is is controlling to try to make your ex-wife collaborate with you?

She has no interest in real or meaningful collaboration. Anything you suggest or offer she has to filter through her own wayward self-entitled abusive head and how it will effect HER and HER relationship with OM#4,5, 6 or 7.

Agree 100%

Parallel parenting will enable you to truly drop the rope and, LOVINGLY, allow her to hit rock bottom someday and recognize you really truly love and care for her children, you moved to Toronto for the kids only, you aren't trying to control her and she was a fool to leave you.

Yes, and this is a potentially years down the road.

Just google parallel parenting and read up on it. There are many professionals that feel it is the better way to go in high conflict divorce/custody cases.

I did research a few apps before. Will review again and propose to STBX to use one of these in the future.

If your wife STAYS on her wayward path, you may very well want to move back to Michigan in a few years and make her vacation mom. The "mom" you once knew her to be would be forever gone and your kids would probably be better off NOT in her destuctive emotionally abusive mindset and lifestyle on a daily or even weekly basis. It may come to having to protect your children from her (and the men she brings into her life - - men who chase after women with young boys they can abuse).

This concerns me the most. xW has stated that she does not want our children using guns for hunting or riding motorcycles yet she is now dating a police officer who has his own personal motorcycle. She is at the peak of rebellion.

I agree with your last paragraph. I will take it day by day and see how it goes.

Thank you again GB!