A WW? (5)

[lt0402]

fade, I'm home every day of the week and am with my daughter most hours I'm home. my wife has consistently pushed back on the meals/meds situation and I've been trying to break down that barrier. she tends to get high anxiety and extremely combative when I do, so I was trying a different more structured approach, though I can see how it could be viewed negatively. I keep finding myself wanting to move towards a cooperative approach with my W, but I'm seeing how she just doesn't care to do that.

I'll definitely re-read all this in a year. It's like I can see the light through the cracks in the wall right now, but I realize I'm not fully there yet. I meet w/ the Ls when I'm back from my work trip next Thurs and they should have a first draft of things.

DonH, it has become my norm. It's really difficult to separate what is normal and what is dysfunctional after having been in this situation for so long. I'm making progress on peeling back the more irrational stuff. I'm having difficulty figuring out how to properly address it and push back to something productive though. As an example, I showed up unannounced at my Ds tennis lesson yesterday bc we did a volunteer event at work and it ended early. When she saw me, W looked like someone had smacked her in the face. I went bc I wanted to and I enjoy seeing how D is doing. Such a small thing, but such a large overreaction from W. Getting better at doing things bc I want to do them, but still at times move down the path of least resistance. Working on fixing that.

Surfer/MulesQB, will come back and respond tonight. Was trying to respond in your thread last night, but crashed after putting D to bed.

Quick journaling. W sent a text and told me she was not going to visit her "friends" this weekend near where OM lives bc they couldn't get things together. I just responded with ok and left it at that. It is what it is.

I went to the co-parenting counselor for my first visit on Wednesday too. It was an individual session. Per the IC, W has yet to schedule her individual session. Guess we'll see how that goes or even if she does it. IC seems good from talking to her though.

Went to both of Ds tennis lessons on Wed and Thurs. That was fun and she's doing awesome. Very cool! D chose to ride home with me on Wed and we had a blast joking around. On Thurs, W took D after her lesson to a school sponsored dinner at a fast food place nearby. Both nights after dinner, D and I studied on the couch and then hung out together and played/watched some football right before bed. Hoping to catch part of the meteor shower with her this evening.

Hunting pokemon with her sunday morning. Getting pumpkins and doing random stuff with her tomorrow. All around a great weekend and am looking forward to it!

Thanks all for the feedback/support/thoughts. The honest, and sometimes, tough feedback is definitely appreciated too. Getting there, but realizing I've still got a bunch of work to do. Heading out from work to hang out w/ D for dinner and fun. Chat w/ all ya'll later!