Found out about W affair, she does not know I know

[Steady9]

I feel like W is taking accountability during our conversations today. I do understand my part as well. I had started to be more present with her and the kids a few months ago. She still needed to work through this I guess. During the conversation she said she needed me to shake her out of it. She seems truly embarrassed-- she used that word. We have been able stay light hearted with some humor. I need to do more --she is not asking for it right now-- but from my reading and this website- I know.

I feel it is like Sandi said about the benefit of the doubt-- and this A was not that strong. Knowing we need to work together to make sure needs are met.