CaliGuy...I haven't even put in all of the lines she has given me. The best yet is, "One of these days you will agree that this is the best thing for us". What a crock of _____!
I understand that yours was prolonged a bit, but my W wants our now and thinks that life will be great/easy. Totally not realistic.
Mine did too ... the first attempt was the $150 Divorce your hubby.com angle. Now realize I was dealing with this for 10 months before I could spell DB. I did learn however when I said , ok if this is what you want fine, but its not what I want it changed things and confused her. This was inline with the fact I was working out, looking good, dressing good GALing/180's/PMA and all that. She would then flounder back and forth trying to convince herself and M D was for the best for us both to 'be happy' I made it clear, I was not going to be her buddy, we would co-parent, I would not rescue her (This was tough as I am a chronic fixer).
Originally Posted By: SBJ
I tried the walk away thing last night and she kept following me. She cornered me in the bathroom and I went to the kitchen. She came into the kitchen so I went into the garage. She came out to the garage and I finally said I was taking a walk. The entire time she was wanting me to agree with her that we should make everything easy and agreeable for our kids sake.
She is selling you on that dream she has painted in her head ... you are not buying. Keep up that tactic and she will learn its futile and you are not going to be swayed. She needs you onboard so she can share the guilt with you.
Originally Posted By: SBJ
As for PAIN...I'm there. I can't believe someone in their right mind would treat someone they loved the way she is treating me. That being said...I understand that she is not in her right mind right now.
I learned a phrase that helped with the spew/monster sessions.
Hurt people hurt people
Your German Sheppard gets run over in the street, you rush to help him and he bites you. He is hurt badly and confused, at that time he is just trying to survive, the MLCr is similar ... they will say and do things to get YOU to end the M, its the trick to get out of it all without the guilt.
