I do plan on throwing some nice comments to her now and then, see how she reacts (you look nice today, I like that dress, etc.). Would that be OK, or still keep away from that?
Seeing how she reacts might be noticeable and make you appear dorky, manipulative, dishonest, desperate and needy. It might make her feel like you are waiting for a reciprocal response from her.
That being said, back handed off the cuff genuine authentic sincere compliments are ok. Being a bit flirty even but not in a pursing manner.
An example: You authentically notice she looks hot "Hey, do you mind not doing that (pointing up and down at her), it might help this whole process if you could ugly it up for a few months instead of looking so hot". Then walk away. Don't watch to SEE how she reacts. Her reaction doesn't matter. Her reaction only indicates her then immediate emotions and feelings. Long term it's insignificant and your "compliments" sound much more sincere and genuine if SHE SEES there are no expectations or wants behind it.
Maybe other example would/could be:
"I'm just cleaning up my side of the street here a bit and I wanted you to know that though I never said it much, I've always appreciated how you went out of your way to look good for me over the years, I've always thought of you as the most beautiful girl in the world that I was lucky to have, but I know I did an awful job of telling you that enough and showing you that's how I felt - you're hot - sorry if that bothers you to hear now but I had to make that known, in no uncertain terms"
"Maybe it's just a passing thing because I'm otherwise so upset with you, but you are more attractive now than ever before in our entire relationship. Maybe you are right, I'm thinking that now because I'm just trying to "keep you" but it's how I FEEL and FEELINGS are important" (this is really tricky advance game theory stuff - because FEELINGS aren't real - our thoughts and choices become our actions and our actions direct our feelings - "feelings" change but way wards live by their "feelings" first so jumping into the "feelings" boat with her might be lead to interesting discussions - but you AGREE with her that your feelings might be lying and manipulative - an attempt to control her and not be genuine and then ask HER to explain that to you in a very casual non-committed manner - you don't force such relationship talks and let HER talk and be the expert on "feelings" and living on "feelings" alone).
"You are IMPOSSIBLY - [laughing] I refuse to let you divorce me looking so hot. I need to get out of here, maybe take a cold shower or jump in a lake" - then actually LEAVE...it's a compliment while walking out the door. don't discuss it or dwell on it. Don't let her tell you it's inappropriate or makes her uncomfortable. She might not like it because it simply makes her feel guilty for KNOWING she has to divorce you. You don't want her to feel uncomfortable so hit and run and let her deal with her own FEELINGS on the matter (which will be all over the place).
While you are going out all the time - make sure you are looking good and smelling different. New cologne - new shower gel. When you walk by your wife you want your old smell (which has negative connotations to her) to be drowned out by some new smell (hopefully associated with a new more tailored and clean cut MAN that cares about the way he looks and smells). Hopefully you put enough on that the smell association lingers even after you've left the house (giving her the backward compliment).
Also - be careful out drinking. Betrayed husband's are emotional basket cases that emotionally troubled desperate women LOVE to snag and rescue like a abandoned abused puppy at the kill shelter. Last thing your family needs is TWO wayward parents and it doesn't take much to head down the path. Don't over share with any girls/women...just go have fun and GAL while being appropriate. You remain a married man.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
