Her MLC: The Battle I Didn't Choose

[Brubeck]

No one can tell me that my W already knows the answers to these questions. Basic math has failed her because she's drained our bank accounts by almost half. I have to make an effort to explain to her that getting a D will impact the entire future of her mother's life and her children's life because nothing she is planning is financially viable AT ALL. You might say "She doesn't care" - well I do!

Avoiding these talks is to do nothing. She's placed a restraining order on our bank accounts. We have a court date on the 31st, and I only have 30 days to reply to the petition for D. She is thoughtlessly burning down her own life out of rage because she cannot think of another answer. This decision will ruin the lives of her children, her parents and myself. I will not beg, plead, cry or scream. I will talk to her every day that while a D might be good for her - it will ruin the lives of 7 other people (kids, me, MIL & FIL, uncle).

I cannot sit around any further, I have adhered to doormat tactics all year long. She is now seeking a D, she is asking me to quit my entire life. I cannot do that. I am not responding to that with inaction. I have spent this year giving her space & freedom to do whatever she wants. If she spent another year of spacing out on her cell phone and ignoring the kids, I would have gone along.

She wants to destroy our home. GALing and going dark is not the answer. I have to try and explain the CONSEQUENCES of her actions - especially on her own children. If I lose, at least I tried.