Tx, I could not disagree more with you. When your entire life is shaken to the core at BD, it is very hard to function, hell, it's even hard to breathe and every little encouragement helps, it is a lifeline practically.
And people coming by your thread and explaining to you what just transpired and how to make it day bay day are a godsend. I truly do not know how I would manage on my own, without encouragement and some pep talk.
And even though there is some validity in your claim, it is a recipe for disaster for any newbie, who's defenses, selfesteem and life in general are in shards all over the place. And just as you would not yell at a toddled or a child for spilling a drink, you CAN'T yell at a newbie LBS to get his/her act together and to "buck up" and frankly if that is the scope of your advice, I suggest you refrain from "comforting" newbies with them.
