2Lady, I don't think you have the right to critise any of us, since by your own admission all is good in your marriage and your H is wonderful, and you are an awsome and caring wife. I am not sure what you are trying to get out of this site (or this post). Maybe if you tried to show some empathy and walk in our shoes for a while you would see that despite of the anger or the name calling and the husbands that do horrible things we choose to stick by them. We try to save marriages that are on life support, with no support from anyone but the people on this forum. I live alone in a foreign country, bringing up three children between the ages of 2 to 10. My eldest is on the autistic spectrum. My MIL is fighting cancer, my little sister is about to have a hysterectomy and an early menopause and I am unable to help. I have no friends or family around me, so I'm sorry if I come here to vent about a husband that has rejected me for 9 months, that lies through his teeth, that has an EA with one of my best friends, that looks at me like he hates me. Did I mention that all happened overnight? He was caring, and loving and wonderful. And now he is not, but I'm sticking by him. Because I truly love him. And that means more to me than anything he says or does. And I put my emotional health aside to DB instead of doing what I should have done months ago, which is to cick him out and move on. Don't lecture us on how to be good spouses, because our problems might not be the same as yours, but they are real too.
By the way, I agree with the site that removed your goodbye post, because it simply goes against everything this site is about. It is about support, and helping others, not about GALing or whatever you interpreted to be about. And by the way, GALing saved ME. As an individual I am so much happier that I took on running and that I take care of my appearance more. And I'm investing in myself because this investment will in the long turn help my marriage and my family. Suspect you found the advice here irrelevant because your issues are different, maybe f you went through what we are going through you would empathise a little more.
So I'm sorry if our miserable tales burdened you, however I wish you and your marriage all the best for the future.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
