Feeling Lost 3

[peacetoday]

SRT

I hear your frustration with this- and I understand how hard it is

The only thing I can say is TIME-
If she feels she is sick and needs to get better, there is not much you can do except support her-validate her-be her friend
and let her go as she wishes-
Hopefully she is in therapy

If she is in MLC-then it takes a lot of time -at least a few years-

She may want to hold on to the Family and you- while she steps into the world to see what its like

You can choose to be there for her without pursuing or pushing while at the same time start creating a new life for you
Counseling will help you as well-
Grieving the old M and letting go
Read about letting go and detachment
12 step meeting like CODA or Alanon offer techniques and support for letting go ( free)
Taking good care of you and your kids

We have to let go of the old to create whats ahead and because we dont know the future we have to make choices today that will be in our best interest-No matter what our spouse decides
Your wife seeing you supportive of her while also moving on a little may arise some curiosity in her
Hang in there..