Just stopping by and getting up to speed. Thanks for your contributions on my thread. I appreciate it! The MLC thing is no joke and I feel for you and your daughter... ugh!
As you know, I went through about 2.5 months of no contact. Complete, total no contact (calls, emails, texts anything). I know it becomes cliche around here, but GLA helped me incredibly and it also made me kind of mysterious to WW (I think). It just helped me immensely. Doing things to improve my confidence was important to me so I focused on that during that time. I tried to make better eye contact, be more social and overall more confident. This was all started during that NC time period. Yea it as hard to not contact her, but I had touched that stove many times in the past and I already knew how it would play out if I did.
So that being said, after those 2.5 months, I was the one who caved and broke it after much debate here. I remember becoming so discouraged. I would read different situations here and the positive signs that different people would see. I was a bit jealous... I wanted a temp check more than anything in the world. I followed DR and started thinking about little signposts that I could take as positives. I felt like they were so lame compared to others and a desperate attempt to see positive signs. But DR says to look for the little things. I remember those intial sign posts pretty well (a little different than Andrews but in the same vain):
1. WW has not filed 2. WW responds to a text 3. WW attempts to keep text conversation going 4. WW texts me first for whatever reason 5. WW texts/emails me out of blue, for no reason, and for nothing that I said previously (if that makes sense) 6. WW calls 7. WW asks to meet
Slowly, she started checking these off. Very slowly. After the 2.5 months of no contact... we went late October until the very end of march to get to #7. I didn't see her for over 8 months. So what is my point? Was the extra text a mistake? Probably not the best idea but he did text back right? Remember to see the little positives.
Stay strong... I'll be keeping an eye on you. What's the plans for the weekend?
