Phase 2 contd (2)

[Pax_luv]

I had presented a question in my old thread and I'm going to repost it here for any insight/ feedback.

So, stbxh's mind is a little wonky. I know there's no reasoning or rationalizing, but....
How do I deal with the fact that h is mad at me over the fact that I'm defending myself with this divorce? He thinks that this is a mutual decision and I should just do as he says. as mentioned, I'm not taking the offense here, but using my lawyer for defense only (hate to say it, but I'm protecting myself from him). Again... This is getting turned around on me. For those who have gone through this.... How did you deal? Blehhh.