When she vent to you, your job as H is to listen and validate. (research how to do this) You want to be the one she comes to, not some OM.
Maybe consider scheduling a solo appointment with the MC and yourself. Lay out in no uncertain terms that you intend to stand for your M, and will not come to MC only to facilitate an amicable D. His/her response will tell you if it is in your interest to go back to MC together.
Based on my brief post bomb MC experience, it won't help... until your W decides she wants to work on the M.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
