Feyth, I wish I was around to give you a big hug. I truly believe that even though we are in a way mentally prepared for it, it's when things become concrete ( like being served) that it really hit us. I have been reading a lot of spiritual books lately, and I'm convinced that a partner is here to teach us something. What I don't know yet, but I'm sure all will be revealed in time.
You have a great GAL and you are so strong. Feel what you are feeling, cry if you must but each time you do it, it's another of pain leaving you.