I do sincerely hope that you will arrive at a place where you will be able to open your heart wide enough to allow another woman into your life. You deserve all the happiness, peace, and contentment that comes with a loving and supportive partner in your life. She's out there waiting for you. Will you take notice AND take action toward her?
There are a plethora good models out there that there's indeed a life after a D with a new spouse. Take my own mother for instance...she's been happily remarried to her husband of 30 years. Change your lens and refocus on those who have gone on to happy second marriages. I see this all the time too. I think your focus is in the wrong place which seems to drive your own internal negative narrative about second marriages/remarried people.
Thanks W. I realize I am being a bit extreme. Remember these are just my feelings and not lifelong views. Clearly it's just my psyche's way of telling me I have further healing and living to do. I'm confident that if it's meant to be that my feelings will change and I'll be open to something someday.
There are great examples here as well. I can sometimes get carried away, but the fact that all the women in this community are striving to deal with titanic losses and betrayals and come out stronger is inspiring to me too. There's a difference between dealing with processing natural emotions of pain and anger versus being unappreciative or unsupportive. I'm sorry I allowed those to be blurred. We've all been through a lot and this is a profoundly thoughtful and caring crew here.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
