Had a pretty good weekend with WW. Friday night she asked me to go watch our nieces at a halloween skating party. Then we went over their house for a bit after. It was great to see those girls.. the youngest one fell asleep on me. I don't think she would bring be around the girls if she wasn't serious. They took the break up hard.
Saturday we took off to the hotel for the night before the half marathon. Everything was good, felt normal. No R talk here. Good company, some massaging but nothing intimate. I wasn't sure how to handle the whole the bed situation so waited and waited and waited until she asked if I wanted to share the same bed.
The half marathon day was great. She was nervous so I comforted her. Lot's of hugs and pecs but still nothing overly intimate. We meet people from our running group and off we went. My time was OK, her's was great. Then we headed on home.
So everything went well. At the race, a photo was taken of us and posted on FB (evil evil evil FB). I have really only told me immediate family that we have been talking. A friend and his wife posted an 'angry' face on the pic and made some comments. Nothing directly aimed at WW, but their was a definite message their. I texted them and asked them to knock it off... it's hard enough for me without having to deal with that. I probably would not have done that pre-BD by the way. Of course WW, saw it and called me right away and she was upset, I think rightfully so actually. So I told her that I told them to knock it off and she started laying into me a bit saying I didn't say enough (after thinking about it, I think she was right). She was heated and started with some disrespectful comments, I immediately put an end to that. I told her I am not going to deal with disrespectful comments like that. She said it again... I said I am not dealing with disrespect, so until it stops I have no desire to continue talking and I hung up. She called back about 15 minutes later apologizing... apologizing not for her particular comment but apologizing for actually being disrespectful. I thought that was good. Everything has been all good since and she has said more than a few times how great the weekend was.
After reading hundreds of stories here and thinking about my own situation for 15 months, disrespect is probably the first or second deal breaker for me... she was full of it. If she wants a new marriage, that is over.
It is hard to know where to go from here. So you could say we have been slowly building things back up since mid June. But whats next? We still live apart. How do I even attempt to handle the sex issue? Is it weird that that hasn't happened yet? I don't even know if I'm ready for it. It is going to be in both of our minds. I think I will grab the sex starved marriage book. I guess consoling is the next logical step?
