A WW? (5)

[Surfer]

LT

Your W is my W 5 months ago. See today's update. Don't disparity. Basically she is nuts. I bet she looks nuts too at times. If she looks, she sounds nuts, etc guess what....she is. Temporarily. Or should I say totally illogical. I've had it all, from putting too much toothpaste on the kids toothbrushes to the washing, ironing, dishwasher OCD. Forget it. Don't do what she tells you to do. Just say, okay, you know how to do this your way I just do it normally - I am clearly struggling. Let her do it. Don't struggle. But most importantly do not enter into an arguement with her. This is her modus operandi. She needs to make you out to be the bad man. It's also part projection too I think. Anyway, just avoid it. If she starts off nice and changes to attack, exit the convo. Pronto. Nothing else to add. Just set a boundary and exit (sorry this is not working for me). She will spew the feck out but if needs be, leave the house. So - hate her crazy was done.

Now the OM trip. You know the drill she is going anyway. Just don't make it easy. Don't call her out on it either. If it does not work for you say no doesn't work for me. If it does and you get time with the kids - take the time and don't give her it back if she asks for it.

Don't pay any mind to what she is up to or who she is with. She is anWW and you don't want her. You want your W.

Now bear in mind. If you WW does turn a corner - again see my sitch today. It could of cours be BS. My W could be manipulating - not too sure she as she is getting consistent - it let's see. But if she does. You still do not want her back. She is going to have to be putting in some serious work.

See the way I see it, now I understand more, is you are not on the back foot. You Are very much on the front foot my friend. You just don't know it because it doesn't feel that yet. You it will though. Trust me. I wouldn't be surprised if she moves out at some point. She may not. But she may. Don't fret if she does. Best thing that happened to us. Certainly to me and the kids given her personality 5 months ago. Her R with the OM will, most likely fall apart.

You MUST get down the gym, get fit and confident and be superdad. Your only jobs. All sounds like leisure to me - Oh yes on top of that you need to go out with friends and have fun! Could even date if you feel it's right. You mean WTF......???? Even that is like a dream on a plate. Or you could sit about worrying which pot of boiling water has the bunny in......I know what I'd rather do.

Hang in there mate. Hang in. You are doing great. Just stay off the rollercoaster.

Surfer.