MLC & Alcoholic

[MrBond]

"But I really feel confused about the whole thing which is why I sending so many questions."

What are you confused about?

"I am not a type A control freak. I am more Type B. I happily kept "the ship" running while he "played"."

Is that how it was since day one? Really think about this. I notice in many of your posts, you respond really fast. Sometimes you just need to pause a moment, take a deep breath and really look at your sitch under a microscope. What would someone from the outside see?

"Sometimes I would be frustrated and resentful,"

What would you do to show this?

"I definitely didn't show him lots of mushy love and as he says didn't act sexy."

You say "mushy" love like that's a bad thing. Did you do that before you got M?

"But I was exhausted and probably a little resentful that he didn't appreciate all I did deep inside."

Okay, but can you see how that just perpetuates a never-ending cycle? Men equate love with physical while women equate it with emotional.

"He doesn't EVER do anything to help. So I never criticize. Honest."

Okay that's an absolute answer. There is no such thing as absolutes. There must be some small way that he helps. Even if it's picking up groceries or whatever. It's like when someone tells you that you NEVER do something. I'm sure that if he was like that when you first met you wouldn't have married him. Also, you say that you're resentful for him being that way. Really think about your actions during that period. Even a little joke or a look the wrong way or something said under your breath or a sigh is a criticism.

It seems like to you, helping is a BIG deal. If he's as useless as you keep saying he is, why would you stay with him? Why would he stay with you?