At the moment, I have to provide the best, most loving environment whilst he is with me. I can argue my piece with W, but she isn't in 'listening' mode, I don't think I'll have any luck. I don't know about your H, but my W delivers her sermons when she's leaving, trying to sting me and leave me with a bad feeling. I now just let it ride over me. It's the best way.
I'm sure you provide a lovely environment for your little boy!
Weekend just gone was the first time H shared his patenting wisdom with me, I think prior to that he felt that him leaving has no impact on anyone, and that pursuing his happiness is all "fine and dandy". S10 being unhappy at school (for the first time in months) must have been a wake up call, so he is now coming up with plans to visit counsellors (for the kids) and telling me off about everything he is unhappy with.
When he told me I must have looked at him like he grew a second head or something because I actually thought he must be joking! Anyway, like you, I'm trying to not pay too much attention to it, and instead recognise the good things he still does.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
