I know I am posting alot today. But I really feel like I am coming Unraveled. Let me try something positive. Can I have some help with a 180 here?
August: BD - Hubby is unfilled. Loves me, finds me attractive, loves family but feels empty inside. Wants attention and validation. Feels he got it everywhere and from everyone but from me. In our pre BD life, he had full freedom to come and go however and whenever he choose. He took no active role in our family, kids, runnning of the household and openly admitted and joked about it. I did everything, happily (most of the time). But felt resentful and a bit onely.
BD - 6 weeks - Begged an pleaded, tried to show him attention, initiate sex, etc. Got nothing but anger, resentment and very mean mean comments and actual including some physical abuse which he says was because I refused to stay out of his face.
Last 2 weeks - I really tried to detach, tried to move on , do other things and not ask him about what he is doing. Until last night when I initiated the R talk. Ended up in me trying to convince him to "work on it" which he wouldn't commit to. He only committed to "working on himself". Then I said I won't live like this and mentioned I have seen an attorney.
This morning - Sent text (see above thread).
Now what does my 180 look like? What things should I do? What things shouldn't I do? If I ignore him, aren't I just reinforcing his original "issue" with me? How do I do a 180 without impacting the kids?
