New LBH with WAW/Possibly WW, help Part 2

[nutts]

Hi All, a little update.

Not much to report these last few days. They've been pleasant, no talk of D or S, we've been friendly around each other too. However, there hasn't been many positive signs either. She doesn't seem as depressed, and I believe she's over the OM (or very close to it at least), but no physical contact, any poitive talk either.

She's planned a trip to her girlfriend's (flying there, no where near where OM lives) in mid November. I'm a little worried about it, but there's nothing I can do. I'm hoping it's just her getting some release time and have some fun, not going looking for other men, etc.

I'm almost through with DR, and I plan on going back over the relevant parts afterwards, but I do have questions.

When do I stop treating her like a WW, and more like a WAW, if she's not actively in A or seeking an A (and, I don't know either of those things to be true, but I haven't found any evidence, and, I've been looking for it no doubt). When do I move from being detached, giving her space, and doing my own thing to trying to include her in things, giving her compliments every now and then, basically being active in somethings, rather than reactive?

I'm not in a hurry, but I just wonder, when would my W be at the point she would be susceptible to some small attempts to woo? I guess I need to see more positive reactions from her 1st before I move to this stage. But, these are the thoughts that go through my head. I just need to be patient.

While things are going OK right now, deep in my gut, I know I've got a long fight ahead, and I am still very worried W is dead set on Separation and D. She's such a stubborn woman, getting her to change her tune will be hard.

Thanks all.