wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Raul]

Update:
5 months from D-Day: WS is still in her apartment living the single life. I STOPPED pursuing her exactly a month ago. It took her mocking me and telling me that her male "friends" think I am pathetic for trying to get back together for me to see how immature she is. It has been a whole month of no contact. I feel better, much better. I don't cry as much as I used to. And I don't miss her much either. I still have my daughters living with me. They are the only thing that keeps me going strong.

Get a life
I have made friends and have gone out a few times. Not looking to have a relationship but I realize that there are some good people out there still single or trying to go on with life like me. My daughter had a problem at first, but I had a talk with her. I reassured her that I will never leave them and that I will always be here. Daughter kept on asking if I was coming back home. She said she is scared that I leave and never come back. So I really don't go out often.

Co-parenting
I am so disappointed with WS. I would never in a million years thought she would pick the OM over our daughters or to live the happy single life. She started off by having our daughters twice a week to none. She still picks them up from school and has them for 3 hours until I picked them up after work. But on the weekends, my daughters don't get a phone call or no longer go with her. It has been one month since the last time they spent the night at her apartment. Ironic, our daughters don't ask about her much and refuse to spend the night with her. WS tried to have them spend the night 2 weeks ago. Daughters said no and called they don't want to be there and to pick them up. I thought wife would protest since she doesn't have them over night. But she did not and instead said if they are going to cry and whine to pick them up instead. Today I found out that she took an hour to pick them up from school last week. I thought maybe she had gotten out from work late, but daughter said she did not have uniform and was all dolled up. That made me angry.

Pending
She said she will file for divorce after the holidays. So she can start the new year fresh. That is what she said a month ago. She also said if I wanted to file to go ahead so she can save money. I told her if she wanted it, to do it. I decided since she is not helping with food, bills, mortgage anymore, I need to find a weekend job. I had to talk with my daughter that I wish I could stay home with them and take out to the park or visit family like we always do, but the bills are piling up. So my daughter is so understanding and supportive that she agreed to be okay with it.

Hopefully things will get better.