CaliGuy...I understand and have heard alot of the excuses.
And as far as teenagers...I have kids (19/14/10) and none of them act like this. She thinks this is all going to turn out perfect. I told her she was breaking our family apart and her response was priceless...she said, "Families don't get broken apart, they just get restructured". What a crock of excrement.
I am the sarcastic one in the family, so it has been very hard to keep my mouth shut and not engage when I hear these things. I now have an area prepped in the garage that I will use as a diffusing area (punching bag, jump rope & pull-up bar included).
She has an image/idea in her head of what D will look like, this has been painted over the past few years so to her its very clear. Reality will not look like her image and its up to her to realize that without you pointing things out. The more you say "Look its a green tree" the more she will dig in and argue its blue. This is where the Detach and GAL come into play she has to face her own reality
My BD was Sep13 and I did not find this place till what .. 9-10 months after and then took a couple more months till I discovered this MLC thing, so do not worry about a make or break mistake as it just does not work that way. Mr Bond said some prophetic words... as hard as it is, its going to get worse. It pains me to tell you that but you do need to turn inward at this time, become super dad, and just bear down.
Read up, sip the STFU smoothie and hang in there, come here to vent and make sure you cover those tracks so she can not see you are here getting support.
