Ginger1...I agree that it isn't what she wants right now, but it is hard to change my ways. As a product of the 70's I remember alot of Star Wars quotes...
1. as told to Luke you must “unlearn what you have learned”.
2. also told to Luke you “Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
I know it is cheesy motivation, but whatever works.
I love my wife and I will do what it takes!!!
She is worth it and so is our family...
Of course it's hard to change our ways when we have been doing something for one way for so long. That's why you need to ask yourself these questions. No one said it's easy!
I sense a lot of love for your wife of family. It's great you did so much for your wife. Do you feel perhaps you might have been a bit codependent? I believe we all become codependent in a marriage. We should be to some extent. But after a while I think our personal worthiness stems from what we give our spouses, how we make them feel, and that's where our self-esteem and worthiness is found. That I think is when we become that unhealthy co dependent.
Something to ponder, anyways. My motto is to always keep your intentions pure.
