Going to write this to her:

Hi W
I hope things are going well for you. At the moment, it doesn't work for me to meet up as if our relationship hasn't changed. I hope your relationship with S does improve and I'll always encourage him in that. As for his birthday I'm happy to do whatever he chooses. I think he doesn't really want to do something together so maybe you should try to arrange something for you with him directly.
Take care,
Scrant


Me:48
W:45
S:15
M:17
T: 25
Separated: Oct 2015