Just a thought. Perhaps you could give your MIL some headsup on how to validate?
It is a very painful and confusing time for you. And your h really doesn't like someone you would want to get back with at this point in time.
These are off the cuff emotions. They are valid for the here and now but they may not last.
Let's just get through the issue of your h's safety first. You dont have to decide anything yet.
Later, when you're in a calmer state of mind, perhaps you can reassess your sitch again without having the adrenaline cloud your judgement. This is your M and you get to make the call but maybe now is not the best time to make any decision.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
