Besides what Sandi wrote I think you are getting way ahead of yourself.
Is this an offer on the table for her to want to be back in the marriage?
Or are you just spinning all the possibilities?
One of the first things I say is keep your expectations at zero? This is probably not going to play out the way you are thinking right now. Knowledge is indeed POWER and you need to arm yourself with that.
Right now we want to teach you how to fish, we don't want to give you the fish as that will be exhausting. Once you learn how to fish you wont go hungry.
