Whatever happens today I hope the news is good. Albeit whatever does happen will be about choices made by someone else not you. I can no more feel the blame for my W's choices than you can feel for yours so it is VERY important that you get this 100% clear in your head. You can only care for people you can't control them as you know.
I am not particularly religious however I do pray for some good news for you, your S, your MIL and wider family.
Surfer.
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