Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[PsySara]

I'm a little better today, still a bit low but just trying to use mindfulness and not ruminate. WH's cousin called again and let me vent, it helps me keep my cool when WH and I talk. Not much was saaid between WH and I, he sort of floundered around asking about the kids and very quickly asked about me, I gave a noncommittal answer about myself but spoke about the kids openly.

He should be arriving tomorrow around noon, I will be at work so that's a relief. I honestly am vacillating how to react to him when I get home. Historically he reacts very well when I am warm and affectionate. He tends to melt when I hug him tightly no matter how rough the waters. His LL is physical touch and he bluntly told me last visit to show him affection even if he resists. Being aloof has had the opposite effect of bringing us closer and he has read it as me being repelled by him. So while pursuing is a no-no it has been more effective for me to swallow my pride and hug the @sshole. (that was said in a joking tone btw)