Right now my focus is going to be on getting the divorce finalized and kids settled, then move forward from there. She really opened up to me today about her previous marriage kinda out of nowhere, which ended with her ex cheating on her. I think it outlined to me her insecurities, which I made worse with some weak behavior regarding the divorce.

I'm not going to force conversation, if its there I will, if not, fine, I can date myself (hopefully without making a mess).

Me: 38 y/o
W: 38 y/o
Together: 10 yrs
Married: 7 yrs
S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15)
WBD: Sep '15
W's EA confirmed Oct'15
W Filed Dec '15
Personal awakening Mar'16