I personally don't think your wife is bat-[censored] crazy. I just think she has issues with being in a committed relationship. Not saying she wouldn't benefit from some counseling, but I don't see the malice...

Is there any reason why you can't set the tone here, and do it nicely? Seriously, that email to you was incredibly honest and kind. There was love in that email. She knows you're a good man and she cares about you.

There's no OM, right? Can't recall.

You're not looking for a parenting friend. You're looking for a wife who is committed to your life together. So tell her that. And if continuing to be involved in each other's lives as just friends is impossible, tell her that too.

I remember my Ex telling me once just prior to her divorce being final that she just knew we wouldn't be like other divorced couples - that we would still go on trips with our boys, share meals with our boys, etc.

Disbelieving, I looked her squarely in the face and said, "That will never be happening. I'm not interested in being your friend. I want to be your husband, nothing else."

Of course, I wound up divorced too. There's that...

Blessings,
Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."