Yeah TxHubby I agree. She is seeing a Individual Counselor that she found back in April when she first dropped the love you but not in love with you. Then we used him for a bit of couples counseling. Which led us to having a great summer together. Then she had this breakdown where she didn't know if she wanted to be with me again a few months ago. He requested to see her individually again. He did tell me in private that this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with her. Now she is seeing him individually again. She hasn't been since early September but has one next week with him.

I have decided I myself need to go see a counselor and made an appointment for next week. I really do need to figure out how to stop being the "Nice Guy", stop caretaking her, and as I have been told in this thread a few times - GET MY BALL$ BACK! smile I think today has just been really hard because I am coming to the realization that the marriage I knew is over and won't be back for a very long time (or ever!). From my earlier posts you can tell that I was hoping beyond hope that she would change her mind about moving out... now I am realizing in order for me to heal I need to be alone (obviously with my kids). I am also realzing like you said that isn't going to be much I or anyone else can do. Since I have such a habit of being a Nice Guy and FixIt type really messing with me but I need to get the skills to put matwgood first. I guess we all have good days and bad.

Me:37 W:30
S10 S9 D3
M-Sept 2004 D-Nov 2007
Reconcile Sept 2010
Re-Married Sept 2014
BD ILYBNILWY - April 2016
W Wants to Move to Apartment - Sept 2016
W Moved to Apartment - Nov 10 2016