Why would you delay the process? He would see it as you telling him he he is wrong; that what he feels doesn'the count. That will push him further away. Look. You really can'take control anything he does. Yes, you can AFFECT it by how you control your own actions, but you can't control his. Let him go. Just make sure you are protected (see a L), but don't help him D you. Let him know it's not what you want, but that if that's what he wants, you won't stand in his way. I know, counterintuitive and painful. But is he going to expect it from you? Is he going to expect you to be light and breezy, cheerful, and ...ok? Why not let him be the one shocked by YOUR actions for once? My D is almost final. But I know my H was more angry and willing to push me away when I begged, argued, and fought his decision. He has wavered more as I've shown him I can let go. A D does not have to be the end of DBing. If you take your changes to heart and focus on you, it can change your path for the better.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
