I want to confront her. AND I want to save my marriage. But I am prepared to give the ultimatum of working on our marriage or I will leave her.
But I am deciding HOW to confront her. I am deciding between throwing the evidence in her face if I continue to see deciet lying and activity with OM. Knowing that she will flip because I went through her phone to find evidence no matter how calm and collected I am.
OR broaching it where I do not present the evidence to avoid the distraction that I snooped into her private phone. I am thinking of letting her know I KNOW what's going on and See how much she is willing to divulge.
In both cases I plan to tell her it stops NOW and she needs to commit to MC or other form of working on our marriage or I will file for D.
Good stuff. Option 2 that you presented is better. Never lay all your cards on the table. Let her know just enough that she's sure that you know the truth and you might learn even more truth that you don't know. If she starts to venture down a path of lying just say you and I both know that's not true so please do me the respect of telling me the truth.
