If the affair is not brought up and dealt with then both partners in the marriage are living a lie and there really isn't anything to work on. There is also no marriage to work on if there are more than two people in it. You can't fix a marriage where there is an active affair or a rugswept affair. It must be dealt with the right way or you don't have a chance. Secrets and lies are never the right way. Honesty and transparency is the right way.
