ForeverYoung...seems like she is now wanting to rush things along. I don't know what the rush is about...we've got 25 years under our belt, what's the rush?
In the MLC mind, the sooner the Divorce is over, the sooner their pain will end...
YOU are the reason for her emotional struggles...get used to it...
Doesn't make it true or real...that is just her point of view...
The sooner you are gone, the sooner she will not feel like she does..
Originally Posted By: SBJ
As for the "As if" attitude...she has that. She says she compartmentalizes everything. She has put me and our M in a nice little box that she only has to open when she feels like dealing with me...what BS. She is taking her advice from someone that is obviously telling her that she should do what makes her happy, regardless of what it does to me or our kids. She is not listening to her family that is telling her their thoughts from a Biblical viewpoint.
Acting "as if" , is for you...
Nobody....friend, family, parent, bigfoot, nor the Pope, is going to tell her what to do anymore...
In her MLC mind, she has been controlled her entire life...
And no more, will she be controlled by anyone....
Once again, doesn't make it true...just her POV...
The more people try to tell her things like that, the more she will push away from them....family included...
Originally Posted By: SBJ
She even asked me last night if I thought she should just stay in our M and live like this...my answer was yes to stay in the M, but not living like this. After that she just left the room and went to bed. I joined her much later.
Yea, guilt isn't gonna get you too far right now...
Now that you have told her, you don't have to again. She knows where you stand....
Originally Posted By: SBJ
It is still killing me not to be able to have physical contact of any kind. I am also the touch guy from the 5LL's book, along with positive praise. Unfortunately, she is not one to give either and never really has.
I haven't met or posted to a male LBS yet, that after a few months, hasn't declared that PT wasn't his LL....
I also have always said that the 5LL book should be read more than once...
First time is more of a "how I F'ed this up" manual...
Second time, it becomes more about yourself ( which is what it should be)...
So maybe give it another read when you have a chance...
And for most guys....PT will always be high on the list, especially if you aren't having sex...
