Your exit post makes plenty of sense. You've definitely got some points I will consider. I think of my best friend who left Alcoholics Anonymous after 7 years. He said there wasn't much room for interpreting how to deal with your own problem. The encouraged route from others who were more experienced was always just to stick to pre-approved actions & ideas.
I like the idea of being the Anchor instead of the Lighthouse. That approach probably applies to some people here.
I hope your marriage works out. Best of luck to you.
M: 49, W: 45 T: 22 M: 15 S14, S11, S9 BD: Jan '16 W files: Oct '16 D final: June '18