I learned early on and expressed it as much that it was not my place/duty to mend the relationship between her and the kiddo. I think you have to take that approach going in but in this case also truth dart her a bit that you are not standing in the way ... emails and phone#s remain intact its her fear and guilt that is stopping her ... she may just be temp checking you on how your girls would react, lets face it after the damage done I would not want to face 2 teenage wolverine girls either!! Might be worse than being in the MLC tunnel and I do not say that lightly!!! lol
