Of course she's in a rush, she's in great pain and thinks D is the answer. She has to figure things out for herself, you and the families can't do it for her.

Give her lots of time and space. You can even tell her you are doing this. (I did)

I know it's tough but you gotta back off and do your own thing. It really will make things better for everyone.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl