I think the link that Job gave you says this but I will summarize, reconnection happens in reverse of separation.

In this order - Us, kids, pets, things for separation
the opposite order for reconnection
things, pets, kids and finally us.

And I agree with Job when actions and words match up.
It takes a long time and the best thing we can do is sit back and watch it all happen, listen, validate and not pursue.


Me-70, D37,S36