In the UK - PT21 feeling stuck

[NDY]

@Job
Thank you for taking the time to respond to me. I appreciate everything you said. Thing is that I'm not sure if my ExW is in MLC or not. She displays many of the characteristics described in both the homework you provide to noobs and from other sources.

For example, the 18 - 24 month guideline you provide fits perfectly with her. Back in 2013 two life events took place that I still think have a large bearing on this mess. First she turned 40, then not long after her father passed away in horrific circumstances. About a year after his passing she went from a loving caring fun woman to suddenly in a full blown affair. Equally though in the few times I've seen her (I went very dark and haven't laid eyes on her in a long time) she looked anything but terrible. I know some people can bury their depression and can make it look to the outside world that they are fine but on the other hand perhaps she is fine and MLC has nothing to do with this.

This could all just be me trying to make sense of this. It would be easy to label this with a condition, makes for an easy scapegoat but I equally have to accept that she just wanted out.

@Huddy - sorry for the minor hijack. Back to your sitch.