Hi SBJ, I’ve been rummaging thru my computer and I came across the following copies of letters that Liz (my Ex) wrote and sent to our kids a week after she left us. I have put down their ages at the time of these letters. My additions are in brackets.
I hope this will help in trying to understand what’s going thru some ones head during a MLC.
Love Delboy
Mon 2nd Feb 2004
To my darling Louise (Aged 17), I apologise for my behaviour towards you over the past weeks. I know that I have been very selfish with what I have done and for the way that I left home last week. Dad (Delboy) gave me a letter that said I had damaged our relationship I can understand why.
I will try and explain, a couple of years ago my feelings changed towards your dad, I felt that we didn’t have anything in common, I gave up trying, about a year ago I got involved with Nic, he would cheer me up and make me feel a lot better. I know that it was wrong. But by this time I had fallen for him, I did not mean to break a family up.
I have been thinking of you, sorry that I haven’t been in contact but I was afraid you wouldn’t speak to me.
Love U always Mum
I will write again or if I have the courage send you a text or even phone. I hope that you are well I miss you a lot
Love you. From Mum X
Mon 2nd Feb 2004 To my darling Ann (Aged 19), I apologise for my behaviour towards you over the past weeks. I have been selfish? With what I done and for leaving home the way that I did. I had a letter off Dad (Delboy) saying that I’d damaged our relationship and to explain why I’ve done all this.
I will try, I felt that me and your Dad had nothing in common after all these years, I got fed up, I think it started after we lost money (Delboy’s business failures). I don’t mean to blame anyone but these things happen, about a year ago I became fond of Nic he would cheer me up. And I would turn to him, I know that it was wrong, but I couldn’t help it.
I just want to say that I am so proud of you. You are everything that I am not. I am sorry that I have not been in contact with you but I was afraid that you would not speak to me after all that I have done. I really miss you I am always thinking of you, I love you very much, hope you are well. I well text U or call you soon.
Take care of yourself Lots of Love Mum X
Mon 2nd Feb 2004 My darling Dawn (Aged 13), I just want you to know that I am sorry for what I have done. I know that you didn’t understand my behaviour when I was home the last time, because I saw the way you looked at me.
I would not talk with your Dad about how I felt, that is why I drifted apart from him. I want to say that I miss you a lot and love you. I am always thinking of you and hopefully soon I will be able to talk to you.
All My Love Mum X
P.S. I will understand if you don’t want to speak to me. I will always be your Mum no matter what!
