Yes, it was good to get this done. We sold the house at a 50/50 split, I paid xW an extra lump sum, she bought an apartment, I rent one. Son is done with school and has a job he likes. Daughter is doing last year of high school, with goal to study in UK, this modulated by Brexit mess. She'll be here this weekend, which makes me happy.
GF is a long term acquaintance of xW, a single mom, whom I have known for a long time also, so the usual dating stuff is not there. I have described her as 'breaking all known records for kindness', which is great. Her and our kids grew up knowing each other well, so there is very little foreign feeling. I am glad to have her in my life.
Being divorced gives me space to be myself. I have started bike touring again (Republic of Georgia last month, Chile coming up in the spring), have a good 78 year old academic male friend whom I see regularly, do yoga. Mind, body, adventure, friendships - there is space and time for all these now.
The downside is that the kids live with xW, who is closer to their work/school locations. I do occasionally miss them very much, being the only living thing here, but my numerous EE and other acquaintances buffer this a bit.
I trust you are well?
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
